Figuring out what love is.

Not sure about others, for me it is close to denying myself and seeking to meet my beloved's needs.

Does she know you love him when you say you do, or maybe she feels loved by the actions more?

LOve is what your partner prefers and not you. However! If the partner feels your desire notto do something loving and notices that you are doing it for the sake of doing it, you would rather NOT do it.

Spending time with each other. Even if it is a long distance thing. However far. If you are on a date BE with the partner, if you are chatting, close all the other windows on the computer. Make the partner feel that you are available in that point in time and s/he can share anything with you.

Puh Lease be honest. The truth need not be positive. Respect your partner by being truthful even if it is about each others weaknesses or strengths.

Whatever your partner's needs be, that is what you should be doing to love him or her.

The moment you start insisting on your way or doing what YOU want, you stop showing love to your spouse.

Say whatever is true,and if the truth does not please the partner,let the partner let you go.

De Nile

Sometimes reality has a way of sneaking up and biting us in the ass. And when the dam bursts, all you can do is swim. The world of pretend is a cage, not a cocoon. We can only lie to ourselves for so long. We are tired, we are scared, denying it doesn't change the truth. Sooner or later we have to put aside our denial and face the world. Head on, guns blazing. De Nile. It's not just a river in Egypt, it's a freakin' ocean. So how do you keep from drowning in it?

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like children-like father

I've heard that it's possible to grow up - I've just never met anyone who's actually done it. Without parents to defy, we break the rules we make for ourselves. We throw tantrums when things don't go our way, we whisper secrets with our best friends in the dark, we look for comfort where we can find it, and we hope - against all logic, against all experience. Like children, we never give up hope...

Fair Proverbs

You know how when you were a little kid and you believed in fairy tales, that fantasy of what your life would be, white dress, prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill. You would lie in bed at night and close your eyes and you had complete and utter faith. Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, Prince Charming, they were so close you could taste them, but eventually you grow up, one day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears. Most people turn to the things and people they can trust. But the thing is its hard to let go of that fairy tale entirely cause almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith, that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.
At the end of the day faith is a funny thing. It turns up when you don't really expect it. It's like one day you realize that the fairy tale may be slightly different than you dreamed. The castle, well, it may not be a castle. And it's not so important happy ever after, just that its happy right now. See once in a while, once in a blue moon, people will surprise you , and once in a while people may even take your breath away.
A couple of hundred years ago, Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. Never leave that till tomorrow, he said, which you can do today. This is the man who discovered electricity. You think more people would listen to what he had to say. I don't know why we put things off, but if I had to guess, I'd have to say it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, sometimes the fear is just of making a decision, because what if you're wrong? What if you're making a mistake you can't undo? The early bird catches the worm. A stitch in time saves nine. He who hesitates is lost. We can't pretend we hadn't been told. We've all heard the proverbs, heard the philosophers, heard our grandparents warning us about wasted time, heard the damn poets urging us to seize the day. Still sometimes we have to see for ourselves. We have to make our own mistakes. We have to learn our own lessons. We have to sweep today's possibility under tomorrow's rug until we can't anymore. Until we finally understand for ourselves what Benjamin Franklin really meant. That knowing is better than wondering, that waking is better than sleeping, and even the biggest failure, even the worst, beat the hell out of never trying.

I

I have been striving not to eliminate my complexes but to get into accord with them. Legitimately, these are what direct me to conduct myself. I have been trying very-very hard to be honest with myself and my relationships. It's just too difficult- even when I am trying with all my heart and soul to do this exercise. Most of the people think I am somewhat crazy (some absolutely!), they think that way because I am too profound, especially with my emotions and their expression.
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I have fallen in love twice. Both the times after exactly the same duration of having been there, I realized I could not do it. Hence, I gave up.
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Before I first fell in love, I used to be more moral than I thought but after I fell in love, I discovered I was far more immoral than I could have ever imagined. I would not admit I am a neurotic, but yes I hate ambiguity.I make the most of it and have seen that whenever someone has tried to talking it away from me, I have defended my neurocism like a lioness her young--the reason why I and my ex had to part ways. I have been crazy but more so when I have been in love.
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I have never been more defenseless in my life as I have been during and after I have been in love with another being. Before that I was feeble. Everything seemed distressing and unavoidable. They say, whoever loves becomes humble and that those who love, have pawned a part of their narcissism. But why is it so difficult to stay that humble? Why do we jump out of that humility suddenly? Or, to stay in love forever? Even if it is with different people, why are we expected to love the same person all out life? And if I don't, I am a gigantic mistake. That I dont have a character. Or that I am a failure....
Why?

From you to me...

Sitting here outside,
seeing the planes fly by
and asking myself, "did she see that? One red and two green.."
And tryiing to pen down some words
which is not an easy thing btw,
because are there words for those puppy sounds
which my heart skip a beat,
or for the colors her hairbands dye my heart,
or when you stick your tongue out at me,
or when you blew my nose at the hot springs,
was it motherly or loverly?
BUt at that moment I loved you more.
Or when you call fifty times do a dead cell owned by a careless man,
just to know that he is safe.
I also ask myself,
as you do, "do I love her?"
I know that I do
but you deserve much more.
Its the small details I miss and I will say without being a bore
give me your thapaades once in a while
and let my love be your strength
not weakness is the matter that I want to stress.

saiyyan

...mora saiyyan mosay bolay naa

main laakh jatan kar haar rahii...